Before I begin this collection of posts I need to let you know that I’m not a trained therapist in any sense of the word.
I’ve been through the mill when it comes to trying anything that may help me recover from Social Anxiety Disorder and all its side effects.
In the end I have managed to carve my way out of my social prison by using a variety of techniques that I’ve learnt over the years and through a collection of drugs, herbal remedies and therapies.
I took the best of them all and joined them together to make something that worked for me. That doesn’t mean it will work for you, but, who knows? Maybe some of these steps have no effect on you or maybe one of them will be just what you need to get you on your feet.
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Having social anxiety disorder can appear to be completely self absorbing. You can see no way out of becoming sucked into your own self doubts and criticism.
Added to these dreadful feelings will be the worry and helplessness of not being able to provide, financially, for yourself or your family.
I’ve been in that place and it can appear to be such a deep chasm that escape is impossible.
As I’ve managed to make that climb, I’m living proof that it can be done. It’s not easy and anyone who tells you it is either has never been in that dark place or is trying to sell you something that doesn’t work.
Drugs, therapies and herbal remedies can all play a part in helping your climb but, in the end, it is up to you.
Do you want to be stuck at the bottom of that hole? Or is it time to take the bull by the horns, bite the bullet and decide you want to make your life better and live it on your terms.
I’ve put together everything I’ve used that has worked and every now and then a tactic which, although I haven’t tried, seems plausible. I’ll let you know if there is something within these steps that is just an idea.
This is the initial step.
You don’t have to do anything except know you want something else, something better for yourself.
At this point, I think it is also important to realise that YOU are the focus. YOU can’t do this because someone else wants or needs
YOU to do so.
It may be that YOU are happy in your own world and don’t want to climb out. If that’s the case, who has the right to tell you otherwise?
The first and most important person in your life, right now, at this time, is YOU and YOU have to make a decision based on your own feelings, wants, desires and needs.
Grab a pen and paper – yes I know archaic but handwriting is a slower process and helps your thoughts to gather.
Write down what you want for YOU.
It doesn’t matter how long or short your list happens to be, just make sure it is all about YOU.
Take your time, add to your list as YOU think of things. Sleep on it and look at it again.
Can YOU add more to the list?
Have YOU written something that surprised YOU when YOU read it the next day?
I don’t know if you’ve ever tried writing ‘morning thoughts’ but I find this a cathartic experience.
Just as YOU wake up in the morning, grab a pen and paper (which should be placed beside your bed) and write. Don’t think, just write.
A few hours later read your writing. Sometimes I have no recollection of the words on the paper but they are some of the deepest thoughts.
A real surprise and therapeutic.
Give it a go.
That is the end of this first step. It doesn’t involve anyone else just YOU. YOU don’t have to show it to anyone unless YOU want to. If YOU need to spend longer then do so. It doesn’t matter how long you take to complete your list and it is a working document. YOU can add to this at any time.
I realize this may seem a rather selfish exercise but at the moment YOU are the most important person at without this understanding it is hard to progress any further.
Whatever happens don’t stress about this. If you are feeling a bit overwhelmed, leave it, do something that will calm you down and try again at another time.
If I can help you in any way, drop me a line by using the comment box below.
Good luck with writing your list and I’ll see you soon for the next step.